It occurs to me today that when everything is done regarding certain issues and the time has come to move from a state of living or a state of mind (or both), that there should be a check list to follow so that you will know you can close this chapter and start a new one. As I think on it, every milestone in life, if addressed in this way, will certainly be aided in its effort if a little more logical behavior and a little less emotional distress is applied. Why not just list it up, check it off and move on from a situation rather than lamenting one's way through endless grief and ongoing misery. For example:
1) The need to move; re - expensive overhead, ongoing grief, lack of emotional support, change of scenery requirement, etc. - all of the above.
a) Start packing up personal belongings - If nothing else, it's therapeutic;
it means you are on your way.
b) Take responsibility of anything still living in your house - find a place for pets, plants,
other living things in your life. (call your church and let the pastor handle it for you.)
c) Remember to apply make up regularly so you look like you are alive to the outside world.
d) Try to keep your job steady at least for now. It's your source of income; handle with care
even if it is only temporary.
e) Reach out to a friend to talk to if it gives you comfort. Pride is a stupid issue here.
f) Remember to pray - keeps you in touch with whoever you feel takes care of you spiritually.
g) Line up your favorite movie videos to play in the background of you activities -
to keep things light and rolling.
h) Keep busy - if you don’t sit down too much you will be exhausted by nighttime. That way
at least you can sleep at night if only from being in overdrive all day.
It is important to remember that your best friend will always be yourself. It is that person who puts their hands on your head when you have a headache. It is that person who knows you tried when everything falls out from underneath you in spite of all the trying. It is that person who knows what it cost you to get where you are. It is that person who prays for you best in your own behalf. It is that person who cries for you when you need to cry. Remember to fix your make up when you finish crying. Time to get to work.
Alice Elizabeth Cagle; 9/6/2010
